This blog, I know, isn’t terribly serious. It never has been. Yes, I’ve done my share of complaining about my life and I’ve had my moments of serious business, but for the most part I just fanflail all over the place. Right now, though, I’ve got something important to talk about, and I would love if you could take a few minutes to read this.
If you’ve been following me for a while, you probably know that I’ve spent a lot of time in the last couple of years struggling to figure out my sexuality and being more than a little concerned about my inability to find and maintain any kind of romantic relationship,
If you’ve been following me for the last three months…you know that that recently changed.
I met Konner, originally, at a convention about two years ago. He was one of the very first Boston Whovians! Being rather severely face-blind, I don’t remember this very well, but I’ve been assured that’s when it happened. XD Last summer, he was part of my “Whovians Are Cool” panel at ConnectiCon. A few months after that two mutual friends decided, apparently, that we’d be cute together and encouraged us to start talking. After that….well, it’s been almost four months and for the first time in my life I can confidently say I’m in love.
I have been happier and calmer than I can remember being since high school in the time Konner and I have been together. He makes me laugh like no one else, he makes me feel beautiful, he appreciates my weirdness, he makes me smile no matter how I’m feeling, he makes me better and happier every single day. I literally cannot stress how much of a positive influence this kid has had on my life. I love him.
I know that was ridiculously sappy, but it was a necessary intro to the next, important bit of this post. Konner is transgender. He’s “pre-everything ftm”, as he puts it, and he’s working so hard to transition further. It isn’t easy. He has an incredible amount of support from our friends in the cosplay community, but he comes from a very conservative family, goes to a restrictive religious college, and struggles with some nasty social anxiety, all of which make transitioning difficult. I’m supporting him in every way I can, but we could also use some outside help.
As with many transgender folks, one of the main things getting in Konner’s way is money. Doctor’s appointments, transportation to Boston (where the clinic he’s going to is located), prescriptions for T, needles, binders, essentials like men’s underwear, and (of course) eventual top surgery all add up to the kind of money a 20-year-old college student doesn’t have.
So, yes, I’m asking for your help, tumblr. Konner means the world to me and I want nothing more than to see him happy and comfortable forever. If you can donate anything at all, we would both be incredibly grateful.
Right now, we have a GoFundMe page set up, but, once I get some more supplies, I’m hoping to make some custom friendship bracelets (and possibly other crafts) for those of you who might like something cute and fandomy in return for supporting my cute, fandomy boyfriend. :3
Stay tuned for more details on that, but for right now here are some links:
If you could donate and/or signal boost this, it would mean the world to me and my very own Doctor! Thank you so much. <3 <3
I’d be happy to help a Whovian!